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NVC in Relationships

A few generations back, there was no point in asking who is going to do the dishes, the laundry and who stays at home with the new born baby. Today, each relationship is different.  And it can be totally different.  The traditional role of men and women is changing.  This means our need for negotiation skills becomes stronger than ever before.  We need to come to an agreement many times per day.

Can I reduce the number of conflicts when I use Nonviolent Communication?  

For sure NOT. It is the opposite.  If you follow my suggestion and start to be more honest, you are going to have even more conflicts.  BUT, the outcome of these conflicts will change.  Instead of separation, you are going to get closer to the other person.   

Is it necessary for both parties to be fluent in Nonviolent Communication?

NOT at all. It is enough if one party is able to use it.  However, if both parties are able to do so, we can go much deeper in a shorter time.  If you don't know NVC and we have a conflict and you start to trust I am able to stand up for myself, I set clear boundaries and, at the same time, I pay attention to your well being as well.  Sooner or later, your attitude is going to change toward me and you will start to co-operate.  But it may take some time.

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